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Thursday, May 22, 2008


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Laetizia Coronet

You know, it might be a sick thing to do, a pathetic thing to do, whatever--

No it's not. It's the sweetest thing I have seen anyone ever do with the technology that is Second Life. And I am happy to read that it helps you during those hard moments, two years on, when the rest of the world expects you to be 'over it'.

Douglas Story

Eshi is a soulful character, and we're lucky to have her in this world with us.

Storm Thunders

I've got a box in my inventory labeled Do Not Open. Can't bring myself to delete what's inside it.

Grieving happens in its own time. Eshi, don't let anyone push you to rush it. Only you know when you're done.

Stone Semyorka

Everyone deals with grief in their own way. A year ago, when a dear friend retreated forever to RL, I chose to write a eulogy in my blog.


Princess Ivory

I know it's not quite the same, because my husband is still very much alive, but there are times during the day that I need him to deal with something in-world, and he cannot because he is at work. So I log into SL with his account and take care of whatever needs doing that I need his avatar to do. (Sometimes I make him give me all of his money!)

It is a very strange feeling, being Alphonsus. I look at the screen and I see him instead of me, even though I am the one using the mouse and the arrows to move him around. It doesn't feel like ME, it feels like HIM. I am making him move, but he is still separate from me. And it can be comforting to see him, because I am lonely during the day and I miss him.

It does become confusing however, when someone IMs him. I feel compelled to confess my identity behind the keyboard - to let them know that I am not him, even though it is him that they see.

Enshi, I am so sorry for your loss. And I do indeed understand the comfort derived from accessing an avatar that represents your husband. I would be doing the same thing, in your place.

Princess Ivory


Poignant and beautifully presented.


Anyone who has ever met Eshi knows how special she is and reading this brought tears to my eyes as well as a smile at the thought of her celebrating his spirit by doing the beautiful things here inworld. Thank you for sharing this with all of us.


I understand.
It brings him closer to you.
It's love. It's grief. It's love.
/me hugs Eshi.

This is a beautifully written article, by the way. Thank you for sharing this with us.

Ora Pera

It's inspiring story about two unique people and one of them still carries on their spirit, their ideas and their values in very creative and innovative way. Thank you Eshi for sharing and keep on creating/fighting/working. Hugs Ora


Nothing in Second Life in my time since '05 has moved me, untill I read this.

Wonderful, is what I want to say, but it seems a strange word to use... I dont know what to say, except that I'm moved.

Thank you.

Ignatius Onomatopoeia

The next time students deride SL, claiming it lacks the emotional engagement of RL, I will show this to them.

Thank you for sharing what must be a difficult story for Eshi to tell.

Extropia DaSilva

The pattern we each call 'I' is commonly thought to reside in one specific body, respectively. But personal identity is more complex than that.

The pattern known as 'I' is copied imperfectly by the brain's ability to perform higher-order intentionality and theories of mind. The more time you spend with a person, the better you get at modelling that person inside your mind. Their 'I' becomes part of your society of mind, just as yours becomes incorporated into theirs.

Archbishop Desmond Tutu said, 'a solitary human being is a contradiction in terms. You are a human being precisely because of relationships; you are a relational being or you are nothing'.

I believe it is fundamentally WRONG to consider the pattern we call 'I' as being generated- can ONLY be generated- by a specific individual. It is not. 'I' exists as multiple copies spread across our social networks, passing information back and forth across that network. Without our loved ones, there can be no 'I'. It is obvious, if you think about it.

Therefore, when each of us dies, we are not gone. Our 'I' pattern remains in the social network we left behind, fading in time as our loved ones each meet their own end.

The brain of Eshi's husband stored and processed the highest resolution pattern of his 'I', make not mistake about that. Eshi has a lower resolution pattern but it is THERE in her brain, nevertheless.

It will be a long time yet before her husband is absolutely 'gone', and certainly not while her brain is running its lower-resolution model of his 'I'.

Um..however, I do not intend my words to belittle her loss. I am not very good at finding words that express appropriate understanding of grief. I just wanted Eshi to know that her idea of maintaining a memory of her husband in SL is NOT creepy or strange. It is sweet and quite in keeping with what I think is a propper understanding of how that mysterious pattern 'I' is created and maintained.


/me hugs Eshi.


There are no easy responses to this. We all deal with loss in our own ways, in our own time.

I do have to wonder what it will be like in the next few years when we can re-create AI representations of our loved ones that might be able to walk around the living room in holographic form, respond to questions and converse in their own voice, etc.

What of the will of the person who is dying, who might not want to be "rezzed" in this way? Now THAT is a double-entendre.

Philosophizing aside, I as well send a /hug Eshi's way.

Harper Beresford

Eshi is very dear to me as she is to many people. We are amazed by the lifeforce in her as well as her powerful creativity and beautiful young womanhood. (And I say "young" because, despite all she has been through, she still maintains the "joie de vivre" of being young: brashness, boldness, and strength.)

When I saw her movie about Glenn, I cried. Her grief was apparent. But it also showed her resiliency as she sent her dear beloved husband on a flight through her world in SL and showed him where she is and where she is going.

It is a great gift she has shared with us, a slice of her mind and her heart.

Sa Charlan

Its by far the most emotional thing I have read that connects sl to rl or vice versa. Its the only way to be - completely in love. Eshi is a strong woman cos she can speak abt it and not bottle it up like most of us do believing if we r quiet its ok, when it actually is not. Ty eshi reading ur story gave me answers hope and whole lot of understanding to asses my personal life.
Hugzz to a special person like u!

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