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Thursday, February 10, 2011


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brinda allen

Quote: " thankfully it's much easier to fake online than it is in real life!"

I'm surprised you would offer that advice. After nearly four years in Secondlife I can't count how many very sad situations I have seen develop by people faking "confidence". {I'm supposing you mean confidence as in emotional "confiding".}

Unless one views any relationship in virtual worlds as just a passing meanless fantasy, fake means just that.

I live all my lives with the same philosophy. Say what you mean...
Mean what you say...
Don't say it mean...


@brinda - I see what you're saying and I agree. But I think what Ophelia was getting at is the things we're insecure about in real life, don't always apply to our avatars. IRL you might have physical insecurities that prevent you from feeling confident or sexy - but in SL we're all rockin' hotties. I mean, your avatar prolly isn't an exact duplicate of you. (I know mine isn't.) That is at it's heart 'faking' - but it doesn't make the person fake. And certainly doesn't mean that person treats SL or SL relationships as 'fake'.

I hope some of that made sense. :S I'm having a hard time articulating at the moment. :)

Iris Ophelia

Actually brinda, I mean confidence as in self-confidence, like self-assuredness that allows someone to approach someone else and take a chance, as opposed to being shy and uncertain about what to do. It's a lot easier to be confident online than in person. :)

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